Selfish persons are not capable of loving others, but they are not capable of enjoying themselves. Being selfish isn’t good but being self-centered is worse since you never learn how to listen to other people.
Everybody deserves to a chance to reach a dream no matter how hopeless it looks. However, some folks feel that they might not be able to reach them and that is why they save all their resources to themselves just to ease a few of the insecurities. A good deal of selfish people have unmet expectations that make them feel insecure resulting to dread of confidence and lack of control over their lives.
But when someone you have to deal with regularly is consistently self-involved and self-centered, they can make your life miserable. If someone does not care about anyone else, he/she is not likely to be very responsive to you whatsoever besides evaluating how you can satisfy their his/her needs. They love only themselves. Selfish individuals are mean and they are good for nothing. They’re expecting people to reach out or behave in a way that suits them.
Understanding doesn’t mean letting them off the hook. But in case you’re able to get behind the behaviour and find out what motivates it, you will have a better likelihood of responding in a way that might make it less powerful. We often make assumptions about what motivates people but these assumptions are often incorrect. They do not give a damn what the effect this might have on others.
Dealing with such people is not easy but the first step in managing them effectively is to better understand what causes them to behave that way in the first place. Don’t take them personally. We often make misleading assumptions. A selfish person always puts his/her own needs. When you make life difficult for other people to satisfy your ends, then that type of selfishness is the selfishness that you want to avoid. Putting yourself first isn’t selfish. But thinking about yourself constantly is selfish.
At the moment, it has become increasingly important for people to consider themselves before others. It turns into a status quo and the foundation of this society. There is not any need to be bothered by the situation of the contemporary society. Make certain that you build a personality which can adjust well to demands of the generation.
In my case, its good to be a bit selfish, instead of being completely selfless. When you are too concerned with others and help them when they are in need, you make them parasite and dependent upon you. More likely than not, if you need help, nobody gives a damn about you.
So, rather than being upset about people’s selfish behavior accept that it is essential for survival as long as it does not cause any type of harm to any anybody including you!